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Day 20


Self-knowledge and self-awarness is an essential key for deepening intimacy with somebody else!


Look at the list of attitudes in connection to your relationship. Grade yourself honestly with scores from 1-10 (1 being the least and 10 the most). Afterwards, contemplate where there is room for improvement. What does your partner need in your relationship? In what way(s) could you meet his/her needs better?


Write three actionable things you wish to work upon yourself to become a better lover for your beloved – and find ways to do them soon!


List from 1-10 how you are in your relationship
(answer as honest as you can):

  • Patient

  • Trustful

  • Considerate

  • Helpful

  • Erotically awakened

  • Good listener

  • Caring

  • Encouraging

  • Generous

  • Compassionate

  • Funny/humoristic

  • Playful

  • Loving

  • Optimistic

  • Creative

  • Independent

  • Passionate

  • Romantic

  • Empathic

  • Visionary

  • Adventurous

  • Being a good friend

  • Trustworthy

  • Attentive to the other ones needs

  • Non-judgemental

  • Giving unconditionally

  • Present

  • Grateful

After you have scored yourself, pay attention to the areas which got low scores. For example, if you notice that you got low number on being a “good listener”, “grateful” and “funny” and you realize that it its vital for the happiness of your relationship you can note it down and write a list of actionable things as these examples:

Becoming a better listener:

  1. Not checking my phone while the other one talks

  2. Asking questions then actively listening


Becoming more grateful as a lover:

  1. Expressing my gratitude on something every day to my beloved

  2. Every evening writing down 3 things what I am grateful for in my beloved


Becoming more humoristic:

  1. Learning 3 new jokes each week and sharing them with my partner

  2. Attending laughter yoga class together

  3. Not taking things too serious


Feel creative and take your time to be honest with yourself and see in what ways you can become a better lover through growing self-awarness!

May you both grow through awareness into deeper love & intimacy!

Thank you for today, never give up on love!

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